So often when we are with those we love who are suffering, our natural inclination is to try to fix things. Or solve them for the person. Or …the worst – tell them what to do.
What is really needed though is to simply hold the space for them to be with what they are feeling. No judgment. No advice. Just love. Just holding.
As Oriah wrote:
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
This, I believe, is what we need to do when attempting comfort for those suffering with such grief.
Just Be Present. Love will guide you in all of the rest.
