The Swing of My Hips

by Sheila on August 13, 2013

The swing of a woman’s hips.

I love this song I’m sharing not just because I love the melody – which I do, but I so love when he speaks of the swinging of a woman’s hips. It makes me swoon in a way.  It reminds me of my woman-ly-ness.

I am a strong, powerful and muscular woman.  I’m bold. I’m fearless. Yet, I so love the idea of a man loving this ultimate feminine-ness of me. I want to be powerful in myself and know I can take on the world. And, I want a man who knows this of me and also sees the side that wants to let go and allow for him to love and admire and care for me.

Much is biologically driven in us. A woman shows her “wiles.” I think she does this instinctively. Not, necessarily, manipulating.  Although, I imagine that does happen. But, she seeks to find the “strong” man to equal her.

Ultimately she wants to be all woman and all feminine and attract that alpha (perhaps) male.

All woman = physically strong and smart and capable in all that she needs to do.

All feminine = She brings everything in her nature to the battle as a warrior.

And she is a warrior.

She is soulful and loving and knowing and so, so strong..and don’t get in her way! She fiercely defends those she loves.  You will never beat her. She will win.

And, when she retires for the day, you will see the “swing” of her hips as she invites you into her life. And, she will be yours.

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Find that Right Person

by Sheila on June 22, 2013

I discovered Jeff on LinkedIN.  What a find he is!


From  Jeff Haden @jeff_haden

Step 1:   Don’t post a job; post the problem the employee will solve.

Write out what problem this new hire is going to solve. Be rich in details. Explain what pain they will alleviate and how you see them accomplishing that as quickly as possible in the role.

Next, explain why your company exists. Again, be rich in details. What problem does your company solve? What pain does it alleviate for its customers?

Finally, tie in how the right candidate will support those efforts.

Step 2:   Ask candidates to answer three key behavioral questions.

Ask candidates to share as much as they can about the following:

What do you know about our business and industry?
How did you come to learn that what we do is important to our clients?
What is your favorite aspect of our business, and why?

Step 3: Ask for their LinkedIn profile, Twitter name, and any other online presence that supports their candidacy.

Make it very clear you do not want a resume or any other materials submitted beyond answering your three questions and providing social profile links.

Step 4: Provide an alias email address and have applications sent directly to you.

Set a deadline of 10 business days for applications to be submitted. Then share the posting via all your social channels and sit back and wait for the right applicants to come in.

Why does this approach work?

Slackers won’t apply, since they see researching your company and writing out answers to your questions as too much work.

Candidates who submit a standard cover letter and resume clearly did not read and follow directions. They can be eliminated without a second thought.

The deadline motivates candidates to get their applications in, again, weeding out the lazy folks.

Asking candidates to answer your three specific questions provides a sense of their writing and communication style and ability. You’ll also see how well they understand and connect with both your business and the role they hope to fill.

Asking for Linkedin profiles and other social media presence gives candidates a chance to direct you to professional information they want you to see. If for some reason they don’t want you to see their online presence (maybe they have something to hide?) they won’t apply.

The best responses show how the candidate can solve your problem and why he/she is the right person to solve that problem. That also makes for a far more relaxed and productive first interview; you’ll have more to talk about.

Applicants are more committed to the interview and hiring process simply because they invested in the process during the application stage. (In part they’ll want to land the job simply because of the time they put in.) Better still, landing the job will feel like a big “win” and they’ll be more likely to try to exceed your expectations when they start.

Give it a try. You’ll increase the quality of the applications you receive while decreasing the quantity, letting you work smarter, not harder, on your hiring process.



And She said…

by Sheila on April 4, 2013


Sarah Brose.  I  recently read this post through Facebook, through the Elephant Journal finally to her blog.  Which I am now subscribed to and will joyfully welcome each post from her!

I loved her post for some many reasons and on so many levels. I am this girl (some things are me).

I do arrive early always. I did clear my space for meditation. I gesture boldly when I get beside myself with joy. I have a gel-filled eye mask (not quite the bean bag). I do arrive alone; I do leave alone. I’m so happy to do this.

I go the the Farmers Market regularly. I’m not sure if I’m breathing from the “pelvic floor,” but I breathe. To allow the divinity in me the space.

I have an imagination that sometimes carries me into a world that I don’t want to leave. This can be a problem and then not, given the time and situation.

I believe in archetypes and that they guide us. I love mythology and the insights. I buy into astrology too!

I love a man who is competent and playful! I desire a man who gets me and gets himself in the idea that he would “want me.” And, know so completely that I want him – and everything that he is. A beautiful quote from a movie, “You will not disappoint me. Whatever you are is what I want.”

I have never done “hot yoga,” but I do Satyananda Yoga in Cleveland Hts, OH.  I put the city/state because it is my understanding that this is the only place in all of the US that has this type of yoga.  (It originated in Australia, I believe.  Look here.)

I so loved her words here, so beautifully written, and the idea of the “why.” I hope you enjoy them as I have.

Date a girl who practices Hot Yoga.

Date a girl who spends money on electrolytes instead of lattes. Who has problems with closet space, not because she has too many clothes or things even, but because she’s jammed everything out of sight so she can have a proper space to meditate. Date a girl who is comfortable in silence, who knows when to flex her toes and when to let them go, who believes in building forts and sitting in them.

Find a girl who practices Hot Yoga. You’ll know she does because she’ll arrive to the party 15 minutes early. She’s the one in Mountain Pose wearing something really tight or really flowy, the one without a drink in her hand. Not because she doesn’t drink, but because she spent four hours in the hot room and is concerned about her state of hydration. You’ll thinks she’s drunk because she’s laughing loudly and making gestures, but really it’s because she’s comfortable releasing on sound and moving. She’ll come alone and leave alone and no one will wonder why she is alone because you’ve never seen a woman walk out the door with such a tall spine.

She’s the girl at the Saturday Morning Farmer’s Market. You’ll notice her over by the peaches. You’ll notice her and you won’t know why but it’s because she’s breathing from her pelvic floor. You won’t know what a pelvic floor is but you’ll talk to her and feel really good because being beside her helps you breathe too.
Date a girl who has an imagination. Who believes in animals and pretending to be them. Who is a Rabbit, a Camel, a Hero or Half a Moon.

Who pretends to be a tree because she knows you have to be anchored down to be free anywhere else. Who is comfortable tying a string to her heart and pulling it upwards.

Buy her a block or a strap or a bolster. Better yet, a bean-filled eye bag. She’ll already have one, but any experienced yogi knows that props mean support and the more support the better.

Sometimes when she’s doing the balancing series she strains her neck and compresses her low back on purpose. She likes to think she can do it all herself, even though she would never admit it. The next time she’s in Dancers, push her over and pretend it was an accident. Let her go and tell her she’s graceful even when she’s falling.

It’s easy to date a girl who practices Hot Yoga. Tell her a story from Hindu Mythology, like the story of the great goddess Lakshmi. If you’re intimidated by this, tell her any old story. Tell it to her while she’s lying on her back. Then leave the room and dim the lights. Even if she doesn’t get it just say Namaste after and the outer edges of her lips will curl up.

Watch her. Upon first glance it may appear as though she’s checking herself out in the mirror, but really she’s practicing her drishti. And if you look really closely you will see her eyes are like fire because she knows the difference between looking and seeing. Either that or she’s trying to practice her drishti but it’s difficult to stay still especially during the time of month when her blood rages.

Why be afraid of everything that you are not? Girls who practice yoga understand that people are like animals. And the more you pretend to be them, the better person you will be.
If you find a girl who practices hot yoga, keep her close. And when you find her sprawled across the bedroom floor in a tantrum, look closely, because she’s actually in Pigeon.

When you ask her what she’s doing, she’ll tell you she’s letting go of all her ex-boyfriends. Don’t take it personally because what it really means is she’s making more space for you. Breathe in, then let it go on an exhale because if she’s taught you anything it’s been that what matters most is what you let in, not what you let go of.

When you propose, do it in the hot room. Kneel down on your mat, but put down a towel first. She’ll say yes by kneeling down beside you. Place her hand in yours but keep it relaxed. Tell her you’ll hold her for all the days of her life, but with an open palm. If she doesn’t believe you, press your thumb on that place in-between her eyebrows. Tell her to look from that place and she’ll turn fire into water.

She’ll try and go into headstand because she’s so happy but invite her to stay just how she is. Meet her gaze and place one hand on her belly and keep it there until it becomes like the belly she was born with.

You’ll look at her with her skin all wet and you’ll wonder how you’ve fallen so hard for a lady with a sweaty face. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will teach your children the difference between Chatarunga and Modified Chatarunga, when to lower your knees and when to keep them lifted. That every inhale is an opportunity to take in what you need, and every exhale, an invitation to let go.

Because a girl who practices Hot Yoga knows that things don’t stay one way forever.
That life is meant to strengthen and stretch and moments are meant to be lived fully, let go of, fully.

Sarah Brose is a Yoga Teacher and Theatre artist who is interested in exploring the links between Yoga and Art. She believes Yoga and Mindfulness create the space and stillness required to cultivate the greatest amounts of strength, softness, courage and compassion. It is within this space that we come up with the most creative solutions to all of life’s problems. She enjoys writing and sharing words from this place. Link to my Blog:


What Delights Them?

by Sheila on April 1, 2013

When I think of my nieces – Raisha, Rosie, Molly and Jilly, I feel utter delight. It is even more delightful hanging out with them!

Showing her guns when she was little! Showing her guns when she was little!

When I got to know them (and from the minute they existed in this world), I loved them.  What I was completely unprepared for was the idea that they would love me.

It feels natural to want to guide and teach a child. But it seems for me that what I want most is to delight them. It is/will be in the delighting of them, that I will “show” them things of  love in a world that may often be cruel to them down the line (and even now).

I’m not really sure what I want to say here, now. I do know that the act of love and delighting another person, brings me my love and delight.IMG_0721

Spending time with Molly and Jill Jill (my younger nieces – 7 & 5), I discovered that all of the intellectual conversations with adults (which I do love) cannot compare with just being with them. Being way silly! With Molly – bantering non-stop and laughing all the time while doing it! Watching Jilly draw endless piggies (because she loves them) and how she tells a story around them.  She always seems to relate any event to a lil piggy!

I started a list of delights specific for each one. I want to hold this idea always when interacting with them. I just recently thought I might begin this type of list with many others in my life who are significant. My question is: How might I delight them?261588_1791712312746_1237770697_31426541_5192092_n I began to understand that this might not always be so positive in nature, with respect to them feeling this in the moment. Some things, words, might come as a bit of a shock. But, I also knew this – the “delight” had to come quickly after this possible “affront” to them.

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I guess it is a bit of “delayed gratification.” For me and them.  Molly may be getting irritated or be struggling with something and my words not be exactly what she wants to hear while observing her behavior.  SSPX0195Yet, If I’m holding my desire to delight, she will quickly see something about herself if she hears my words. Our insights, when they come, bring such peace and acceptance. Insights do not come as readily for children as with adults – or wait…maybe they do? Children are no mired down with preconceived notions and beliefs as we are as adults. They do get it quickly! Sometimes, though, I think they just don’t quite understand it.

But/And, they shift. Watch a child and support and interact with them and you will see what I’m describing. Often it is through tears. When the tears subside though they are in a new space. And they get this “learning” in a deep, embodied

So, I guess when I think of delighting them it is most about holding this space for them to be who they are while I support and love them.n613650987_1690192_93scan0001

And, it is also giving them tons of stuff I know they will love!!!

My desire is to be what they need exactly when they need it. Tall order.



Ziggy – Contemporary

by Sheila on March 20, 2013

Dance for me is the greatest expression of ourselves.  It gets us deeply grounded in the essence of us.  It is that place where all else falls away and we are we as the Divinity. Or, as Lil C would say, the place of “Buck!”

I have not incorporated dance in my live as I should have…although should is not a good word.  Simply, that I have not.  And, yet, I know in my deepest soul it is there for me.

I wondered today what it might be like to choreograph a a contemporary dance to Ziggy.  How does one bring that elegant flow into Ziggy?  I completely saw it though.  Yet, it had glimpses of hip hop and the power that comes with that.

When I first heard Ziggy as a very young person, I knew I had heard brilliance.  And, I knew it / he would change the face of music. I stood and said, “Wow, what IS this!” And, it took me over.

Ziggy is a love story and absolutely flows.  And the hard driving thoughts or actions might be so beautiful  in the mix of flowing.

I’d love to see a combination of Mia Michaels and NappyTab in this arrangement.  And, I’d love to see me there.

Enjoy the vid: